Stress Free is the Way to Be

Tips for Dress Shopping without Losing Your Sanity

Hey all you Brides-To-Be out there! We all know your dress is one of the focal points of your wedding. You want it to make you feel like a princess, and it'll be one of the most memorable elements of your big day. However, it can also be one of the most stressful parts of your wedding prep.

But - it doesn't have to be! I haven't been in the wedding business long, but I've picked up a few tips to de-stress your dress:

1. Do your research: I know, I know - that word "research" doesn't sound appealing at all. Actually, it sounds down right boring. But this research will be fun! I mean, you're looking at wedding gowns - how can that be boring? Purchase some wedding fashion magazines. This time of year, I recommend "The Knot" Fashion Issue. And don't let the price tag of this publication discourage you - the headaches you'll save yourself are well worth it. You can find it at most bookstores, and as well as at the link above. Flip through your new wedding fashion magazine with a pen and sticky notes handy. Mark all the dresses that catch your eye with a sticky, and write down what made it stick out. Write down all your initial thoughts: "like this bodice, hate the skirt"; "like the layers, maybe less frilly?"; etc. All these notes will help you narrow down your choices when you go shopping.


2. Find stores in your area: Everyone knows about the big chain and boutique bridal stores; I'm sure you can think of at least two or three right now. It's possible you pass them every day on your way to work. But, if you're a bride on a budget these may not be the best options for you. Look for local wedding consignment and bargain stores in your area. There are tons around; they just take a little hunting to find. These stores often take in dresses that have only been used once, and some that have never been worn at all. These stores often pride themselves on staying up to date with current fashions, so don't worry about only finding dresses that your great-grandmother would have worn.


3. Go hunting: Go to both the big chain stores and the consignment/bargain stores. Be sure to take your sticky-noted magazine along with you. Use it to remind yourself of things you do and don't like, and to narrow down your choices.


4. Take things slow: It's really unlikely that you'll find you're prefect dress on your first shopping adventure. If you do, CONGRATS - that's awesome!!! If not, that's ok. Don't go into your trip expecting to find a dress the first time you look. It'll only drive you crazy, and that's stress that could easily be avoided.


5. Remember that it's YOUR dress: Lots of people are going to want to help you buy your dress. After all, it's a centerpiece of the wedding. While I encourage you take people along who's opinions matter to you, remember that it's still your dress. Don't try to please the people you're shopping with, letting their ideas mean more than yours. If you don't love it, don't buy it because someone else does. It's your day - make yourself happy.

These are just a few tips I've picked up so far. Shopping for your dress should be an adventure, not a chore. Have fun and don't stress!